To overcome the challenges and obstacles we face throughout our lives, inspirations from motivational books can nudge us forward.
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by Mark Manson
We are confronted daily with beautiful and rich people, with superstars, with advertisements for expensive cars and other luxury goods. We worry about who we are and what we have, and – more importantly for many – what others think about who we are and what we have. For many people, this leads to great dissatisfaction.
Mark Manson shows that it doesn’t have to be that way. Instead of worrying about everything, we should think about what is really important to us in life and focus on that. And – to use the author’s vulgar language – we should give a f*ck about everything else.
Some things are simply the way they are and cannot be changed. If we accept that and our limits, we can find strength and happiness in other things.
The book is thought-provoking. At the same time, the author’s relaxed manner and numerous anecdotes make it highly entertaining. The language and humor are quite vulgar, but that shouldn’t surprise anyone after reading the book’s title.
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes!
by Carol S. Dweck PhD
Why do some people thrive throughout their lives and succeed in all its areas while others stagnate in their development?
Dr. Carol Dweck, a professor at Stanford and one of the leading experts on motivation theory, has pursued this question in years of research.
The surprising result:
Not talent or intelligence are decisive for a person's development, but their "mindset". The author distinguishes between the "fixed mindset" and the "growth mindset".
People with a fixed mindset believe that qualities, talents, and intelligence are unchangeable. You either have them, or you don't. They need constant affirmation and like to be in groups where they are the best.
When faced with difficulties and failures, they become insecure, lose motivation, and give up quickly. They often blame others for mistakes.
People with a growth mindset, on the other hand, believe that personality, talents, skills, and intelligence can be constantly developed and that they can achieve high goals with practice and effort.
Mistakes and failures motivate these people to identify areas for improvement and actively close the gaps by pursuing further education and developing their personalities.
No one is a wholly fixed or growth type – both mentalities coexist in varying degrees in each of us.
We can learn to recognize on a situational basis when we are in the fixed mindset and how to shift into the growth mindset.
Using numerous stories from different areas of life, the author illustrates how ordinary people have achieved great things with the right mindset.
The book provides many practical tips for self-development and – for parents and teachers – for promoting the growth mindset in children, such as praising effort and improvement rather than intelligence and talent.
Despite its academic background, the book is easy to understand and reads smoothly. It inspires reflection on one's own mindset and sparks the desire to grow beyond oneself.
Author's Ted Talk: The power of believing that you can improve
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes!
by Angela Duckworth
Like so many others, psychology professor Angela Duckworth has set out to find the secret of success.
After years of research, she is confident that it is not intelligence, talent, or the conditions under which a person grew up alone that determine their success, but rather a combination of passion and perseverance, which the author terms "Grit".
Talent is relevant, but the key to success lies in the effort one puts into a task. The more Grit, the more sustained effort. Effort leads to building and improving skills. The use of those skills, in turn, leads to success.
Grit is not static. The author presents numerous practical strategies and tips for developing and improving Grit in oneself and for teaching and promoting Grit in others (especially one's children and in schools).
The book is engaging and easy to read. Scientific insights are complemented with personal anecdotes from the author and numerous unusual and inspiring stories from sports and academia.
A recommendation for all who strive for fulfillment and success – and for all parents and teachers to foster Grit in children and students.
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes!
by Daniel H. Pink
In his best-selling book "Drive", science writer David H. Pink draws on more than half a century of research to explore the question of what motivates people and the extent to which this is taken into account in today's workplace.
Shockingly, most employers rely on extrinsic motivation, i.e., to increase their employees' work performance through external incentives. External incentives can be rewards, such as bonuses, but also punishments, such as pay cuts or job loss.
However, research shows that such incentives often have the opposite effect: Rewards can lead to narrowed focus, short-term thinking, and unethical behavior. Time and again, we hear about CEOs of public companies using accounting tricks to increase short-term stock market value just to secure their bonuses.
What actually drives people to peak performance in the long term is intrinsic motivation, which is based on the following three principles:
- Autonomy: the freedom (within certain limits) to decide when, with whom, and how one reaches given goals.
- Mastery: to continuously improve one's skills through challenging tasks.
- Purpose: to serve a higher goal than just making money.
The author presents numerous examples where intrinsic motivation is far superior to extrinsic motivation: Wikipedia (compared to the Microsoft Encyclopedia discontinued in 2009), open-source software, and employee-initiated products, such as Post-Its and Gmail.
The scientific experiments and findings are presented entertainingly and easy-to-follow, making the book an enjoyable read.
Let's hope that numerous entrepreneurs will read it and create frameworks to spark more intrinsic motivation among their employees.
Most readers will probably find few surprising insights in this book; however, it can help better understand one's own motivation and see past or upcoming decisions more clearly.
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes.
Awaken The Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Life
by Tony Robbins
At first, I was a little hesitant to read a book by Tony Robbins. From what I had seen of him so far, he seemed a little too much like a religious leader to me. But after this book was recommended to me from different sides, I had to give it a try. And I must say, I wasn't disappointed.
The book starts with the observation that most people are guided in their daily decisions by their environment rather than by their values – until, at some point, they feel they have lost control. To prevent this, you must resist the "flow" and take your fate into your own hands – in all areas of life.
To do this, you need a vision, and you need to throw all doubts about your abilities overboard and instead strengthen your faith in them.
Doubts are caused by painful experiences in the past, whereas faith is built and strengthened by positive experiences. The trick is to take advantage of pain and pleasure instead of being controlled by these feelings.
The technique for this is called "Neuro associative conditioning". Here we associate habits that we want to get rid of (e.g., smoking, television, procrastination) with pain – and patterns that we want to adopt (e.g., healthy eating, regular exercise, continuing education) with joy.
The book explains this technique step by step, using many practical examples. I recommend it to anyone who wants to take their life (again) into their own hands.
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes, and it is read by the author himself.
by Clayton M. Christensen
How do you find a job in which you are successful and happy? How do you achieve lasting close ties with your family and close friends? And how do you live a life of integrity?
Clayton M. Christensen, economics professor at Harvard Business School and author of the best-selling book Innovator's Dilemma, offers his personal guidelines as answers to these questions.
A few examples:
- In your professional life, don't focus primarily on "hygiene factors" such as money, power, and fame, but rather on "motivational factors" such as autonomy and fulfillment of meaning.
- Consciously plan a long-term career strategy only after a sufficient orientation phase. Question the strategy regularly and adjust it when unforeseen opportunities arise.
- For your strategy to be effective, make the myriad daily decisions about how to use your resources (money, time, and energy) in accordance with the strategy.
- Maintain and deepen relationships with family and close friends – at all times – not just when you need help.
- Spend as much time as possible with your children because they learn not when you want to teach them but in moments when they are ready. The more you are with them in those moments, the more they learn from you and not from others. And the more they adopt your values, too.
- Don't keep your children from failures, and don't solve their problems for them. Instead, teach them how to solve the problems themselves and deal with failure. With these experiences, they will better cope in adult life when much more is at stake.
For each guiding principle, the author provides exciting anecdotes from his life and startling parallels to the business world. This makes this inspiring book very enjoyable and entertaining to read. If the above guidelines appeal to you, then the book is certainly something for you.
Suitable as an audiobook? Yes.